Dating Triumphs and Tragedies

Dating Triumphs and Tragedies

Guys are Weird

My friend was recently complaining about her man-of-the-minute, and to reassure her it was ok, which it was, I told her simply, “guys are weird.” It’s true enough, but then I realized, I was on to something.

Guys are weird. That’s why they need women—to normalize them. Or…at least make them more crazy so that they think they’re sane. Then they feel better about themselves because they think it’s the woman who is weird. It’s a trick, but balanced. A weird cycle, but it evens out. Men need women. But women need men. Otherwise, who would we drive insane?

I was leaving the gym the other day and some guy came up to me and asked if I knew of any apartments nearby because he wanted something close to the gym so he could just roll out of bed and head on over. I thought that was weird because he had a tie on, was standing outside of the gym with a little suitcase, and most people aren’t just randomly looking for apartments. But maybe it wasn’t weird, maybe he had a real reason. As in…he needed somewhere to live.Maybe guys’ weirdness is a good thing, because they just don’t care. They don’t think about things, they just do it, not caring what other people think about them. Whereas women might be a little more self-conscious.

But when dating, there are a variety of “weird” things that guys might do, that perhaps aren’t so weird after all.

For instance:

Affectionate little names
When he calls you “pumpkin,” he doesn’t mean you look like one. Take it as a compliment. He thinks enough of you to call you something sweet. And he doesn’t feel like too much of a sissy to say it. It takes a lot for a guy to do something like that, so welcome the comment, even if you’d rather be called gourd.

Which way?
We’ve all encountered “that guy” (read: every guy) who doesn’t like to “stop and ask for directions. He can find it himself. And can you blame him? Of course he wants to be in control, lead the way, and prove to you that he knows what he’s doing. He has you in his care, and as the protector, should be able to get you from point A to point B safely. If he stops to ask for directions, he may see it as a sign of weakness, whereas you see it as getting to the party faster. So if he’s a little reluctant to stop at the first gas station, maybe let it slide, and stop at the next one. It’ll be a little easier on his ego.

Love me, love my dog
What is it with a guy and his dog? Sure, he’s cute, but does it have to take 10 extra minutes to get out the door because he has to canoodle with his pooch? Yeah, they may be a guy’s best friend, but if you’re his girlfriend, or at least dating, you want to be the focus of his attention. But still, you have to respect his devotion to something, and it is kind of cute to see his softer side and how lovable he is. And if he can take such good care of a pet, you can be sure he’ll take even better care of you. ·

Are you ready for some football?
Personally, I’m a sports fan, but I know that a lot of ladies are mystified by a guy’s addition to sports. And it’s never ending, because when baseball season’s over, it’s football, and basketball, and back to baseball, and then there are the hockey fans, and soccer, and golf and tennis and the list goes on. And guys will sit there and watch all of it. And many times, their lady must sit there patiently with them, or impatiently, and at least pretend. But he’s passionate about something. Think about what you like, and if someone nagged you about your interests. Like, if while you were reading Cosmo, he just stared at you, asked you why you were reading it and told you to put it down. Not that many guys would deny their girl of Cosmo, but you get the picture…

Basically, any weirdness you think a guy has, can basically be seen in a positive light, or at least as a cute quirk. They’re all just part of his personality, and if you really think about it, usually some sort of gesture to impress you, or some sort of manly pre-programming to aid you. It’s actually very sweet. Just think…it’s all for you….in a weird way.