Checking a certain box doesn’t mean you will or won’t get along
With the presidential election behind us, many people have been feeling particularly prickly about the state of affairs. For months you couldn’t look at a Twitter or Facebook feed without an opinion being shouted and three others being retorted. But where does politics belong in online dating?
There is a reason politics gets lumped together with religion when talking about things you shouldn’t talk about. Everybody has an opinion, even if that opinion means they don’t want to discuss having an opinion.
Politics isn’t just a political party affiliation. It’s a spectrum of intensity and variances even among the party lines. While some dating sites offer you the opportunity to list your political preference, the question that looms is should you?
Let’s remember what online dating should be: a catalyst to meet a date in person. Everything surrounding your profile, pictures and behavior should be filtered with this goal.
Being pervasive on politics can only hurt you because regardless of your opinion, no one is ever going to 100 percent agree with you.
But what if you think, “Oh, I’m a Democrat — I could never date someone who was a Republican.” And vice versa and yada, yada, yada.
You may very well be right. But let’s consider a few factors before you cast aside all those potential dates:
“A profile is a one-sided conversation that
can leave your dating opportunities hanging.”
1. You don’t know everything.
If you knew everything, you’d know the contents of this article already and wouldn’t be reading it. Ha. Gotcha!
But seriously, you can’t assume when it comes to issues and opinions that you know every fact or perspective.
Just like you may enlighten someone with your opinions, maybe a date will change how you see things.
2. Opposites date/attract/marry all the time.
Even ones that thought they could never be with someone different. It can happen in healthy relationships.
3. Checking a certain box doesn’t mean you will or won’t get along.
You could find your core values are actually aligned more closely than your voter registrations.
How someone says they are online isn’t the digital replication of what they look like in real life. This is the RULE, not the exception.
I always advise letting someone explain what they believe and why they believe it in person before discounting them.
Do not try to explain your political ideas on your profile — it’s a naturally uncomfortable space for most readers. It’s like when solicitors come to your door. Even if they are selling something you may want, you’re turned off by the sight of them.
This is one of those things best left to explain in person when you can have a dialogue or discussion with a person and can ask questions.
A profile is a one-sided conversation that can leave your dating opportunities hanging like chads off a Florida ballot.