How To Reveal Your Sexual Quirks To Your Partner

What I like to do is get a woman to confess her naughty little secrets to me first.”  You just had a ridiculously crazy night of hot sex. It was off the charts. You did things to each other that you’ve never tried with any woman before, much less this early in the relationship. How did you get to push the boundaries so quickly? The woman you’ve been dating confessed a few of her naughty secrets and turn-ons to you, so you were able to act on them and have an amazing night satisfying all her dirty sex fantasies.

She thought it was really hot that she had the freedom to masturbate in front of you, maybe while she gave you head. Maybe a finger in her butt while she was on top, or she used her vibrator so she could orgasm more quickly during sex. Maybe you placed your hand on her neck, and she had you squeeze tightly as you pounded her hard — she thought that was super hot.

But, for some of you, at the end of the night, you thought to yourself that her secrets really weren’t that dirty or naughty at all. “A lot of these things I’ve done before. It’s all pretty standard, pretty normal stuff,” you say. And for some of you, once that got your brain rolling, you started thinking to yourself, “So when can I tell her about my sex fetishes?”

Your Sex Fetishes

Here’s the deal, gentlemen. Sex fetishes are great. They can really bring your sex life to the next level. As long as those fetishes are in the realm of what’s considered “normal” for the other person, that is. When your fetish is out there and considered pretty weird for a lot of people, you’re going to have to proceed with a bit of caution. So let’s get a little deeper into this.

What I like to do is get a woman to confess her naughty little secrets to me first. I like to ask her little questions to which she can respond in any way she wants: “Is there anything that you’ve never done before that you want to do?” “What kind of thing really turns you on when you think about it right now?” “How do you really like a man to take control of you?” I bait her with a lot of different questions and invite her to tell me more — as much as she wants. That way, as she gets comfortable and as the date or the relationship progresses, she starts confessing her sexual secrets to me first. It gives me an idea of how sexually adventurous she is, and how open she’ll be to my own sex fetishes, wants and desires.

As far as sex goes, I believe everything is normal. Well, within reason, of course. We’ve all got our own measuring stick for what we think is “normal” and what are sexual turn-ons. When you start to confess your sexual secrets and fantasies after knowing hers first, you have an idea of how far you can push it and you can start confessing your own little fetishes one at a time.

If some of your fetishes are really odd, like bringing in a love doll for a three-way or wanting her to fart during sex, you’re going to have to proceed with more caution.”  Then, if any of your sex fetishes are a little strange, like masturbating while staring at her feet, or playing He-Man/She-Ra dress-up, I suggest you bring that in slowly. Start off by giving her a foot massage and telling her how sexy you think her feet are. Start nibbling on her toes a bit during sex. When she confesses her things and she feels really safe with you — super safe with you and your fetishes — you’ll be able to confess your fetishes to her.If some of your fetishes are really odd, like bringing in a love doll for a three-way or wanting her to fart during sex, you’re going to have to proceed with more caution. The point is not to shock her. The point is not to scare her away. The point is to confess things to her ever so slowly, have her tell you her turn-ons, experience those with her, and that way you’ll get her to participate in your sex fetishes as well.

If you have some really serious fetishes — and you know what I mean by “really serious fetishes” — then I strongly suggest you make sure that you’re with a woman who is sexually open and adventurous and who can handle those harder fetishes. Make sure you’re with a woman who likes to push the boundaries and the social norms of sex, and make sure that she is into the same thing you’re into. If you’re into hardcore latex bondage, and it took her seven times after sleeping with you to get up the courage to give you a blow job, you’ve got a long way to go. You may not be sexually compatible with this woman. It depends how deep your fetishes go, guys.

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