How to Get Over a Fear of Online Dating by Kara Pound
Dating makes us vulnerable. It creates social anxiety and brings with it the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. Online dating is a great place to start for women who have a hard time starting new relationships.
But what happens when a woman is too scared to even try online dating? Is there any hope for them? How can a woman overcome the fear that is holding her back and getting in the way of finding true love?
Here are three steps to help dating via the World Wide Web and gain confidence to find Mr. Right.
1. Move at your own speed.
Remember, one of the biggest pros of online dating is that you can move at your own speed.
If you begin messaging with a man and he’s pressuring you to meet in person before you’re ready, then decline the invitation and move on. You get to determine how fast or how slow a relationship progresses.
2. Find the root of your fear.
Behind every fear there is a reason for it. What’s yours? Maybe it’s a fear of rejection, a fear of having your heart broken or a fear of commitment. You need to first identify your fear and work to overcome it.
3. There’s a difference between fear and caution.
Many women are cautious of online dating because they want to make sure the man they are talking to is authentic.
Make sure you understand the difference between fear and being cautious and don’t mix up the two. Every woman should have her guard up until respect and trust is earned.
If you’ve never tried online dating, then ask yourself how you can be scared of something you’ve never even tried. Joining an online dating site should be fun and take less stress than traditional dating.
Remember, many of the men online are just like you — busy in life and looking for a meaningful relationship.