Why He Dumped You…

There’s probably not a woman living who hasn’t been left by some louse she once loved. And usually, without explanation or proper closure.

Void of needed answers, she questions herself.

“Was I pretty enough?”

“Thin enough?”

“Good enough?”

Crushed from the experience, she typically becomes bitter, guarded, less confident, and less trusting in her next dating encounter. This, ironically, makes the search for Mr. Right even longer and laced with disappointment.

What many sisters would be surprised to discover, is very seldom are they at fault for a lover’s exit. Men don’t always make decisions based on logic or even emotions. As attested to in Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus, they don’t think like we do.

In the spirit of enlightenment, I interviewed some bachelors who have dumped love interests for reasons as flimsy as cheap lingerie.

Here’s What They Said And What You Need to Know:

Richard (age 45) Writer
“She was getting too close. She actually made me consider giving up my freedom— settle down. I got scared so I just stopped calling.”

Melvin (38) Salesman
“The timing was off. I met her when I was on the rebound. She was real sweet and treated me well. But, when my former lady decided to make up with me, I realized I wasn’t over her, and jumped at the opportunity.”

Lamar (29) Musician
“Our religious differences were just too vast. She was into pleasing God more than pleasing me.”

Ken (50) Educator
“Her public displays of affection turned me off and made me uncomfortable.”

Daryl (59) Arts Activist
“I like variety, I wanted to sleep around.”

Lonny (25) Executive
“I woke up one morning and my spirit moved me in a different direction.”

Breaking up is hard to do, particularly when it makes no sense, or comes unexpectedly. But that doesn’t mean you should go around with a bowed head and broken spirit!

According to the best-selling book, Smart Women, Foolish Choices written by Dr. Cowan and Dr. Kinder, “A woman must never give a man the power to determine how she feels about herself. No person should have that sort of power. Not under any circumstance. And yet we have seen scores of women left feeling worthless because a man has rejected them.”