12 Ways to Get Back on Track after breakup by Jennifer Brown Banks
if you’re tired of being in pain and giving up your power,
here’s how to get back on track!
1. Love Yourself First
I know it sounds a little cliché, but it’s true. Self-esteem serves as a buffer for the many harsh blows of life and love. If you see yourself as a loving, beautiful, deserving woman, ultimately the mate you attract will share this view as well.
2. Resist Becoming a “Fatal Attraction”
Breaking his car windows, burning his clothes, or calling his job, may appear to even the score, but actually you’ll lose. Namely your dignity, power, and sense of peace. Exit like a lady. You’ll stay on his mind longer.
3. Realize That Rejection is More About His Issues and Less About Yours.
What do his past relationships say about the type of man he is? For example, If you’ve dated a middle-aged man who’s never been married before, chances are he may have some commitment phobias.
4. Have Selective Memory
Choose to remember the good times.
5. Recognize That Healing is a Process and it Takes Time
For every individual the time for grieving varies.
6. Seek Support
This is when you need to surround yourself with friends and positive people. Talk and take pointers from those who‘ve “been there”.
7. Get a Life!
Indulge in neglected hobbies that you once enjoyed before he took up your time. Travel, pamper yourself, expand your horizons.
8. Lighten Up
Don’t blame or berate yourself. Try to see the humor in some aspect of your situation. Keep in mind that it could be worse.
9. Learn The Lesson!
Behind every hurtful event, there’s usually a valuable lesson. My last break up taught me to have fewer expectations, not to settle for less than I deserve, and never be involved with someone who doesn’t value what I “uniquely” have to offer.
10. Hold Onto Christ in Your Crisis!
11. Remember That “The Best Revenge is a Good Life”
12. Keep Your Spirits and Your Appearance Up